In spite of the responses received, a gouge is still a gouge. If you present it properly
for the grind employed it will slice wood. You don't want to
gouge the wood, as you've discovered. So you employ the tactic of the woodcarver and slide sideways as you advance the cut, to avoid compression and tearout when working across the grain. Since the lathe is doing the sideways motion for you, you can merely maintain the proper position, once obtained, and get the same effect.
Problem with cylindrical gouges is inconsistent thickness with the same angle grind. This is worse with the "detail" gouges, because there is more metal under the bottom of the flute than even the "spindle" gouges. You either have to compensate with a high presentation (pitch) angle - bordering on a scrape, or decrease the sharpness angle at the grinder to get lower. Cut with the flute facing out from the turning, don't gouge with it facing into the rotation, and you cannot catch. Your sweet spot will be small, but as you develop skill you will be able to nose up a bit more and still maintain a safe cut. Crawl before walking.
For an explanation of the cutting terms above, see
http://homepages.sover.net/~nichael/nlc-wood/chapters/caop.html on the web, or Hoadley's
Understanding Wood. You note that you are
not required to "ride the bevel" if you cut flute outward. Having a bit of clearance angle keeps you from dragging the heel and compressing/heating your way into extra sanding. If you go retro and acquire a genuine "spindle" gouge with consistent thickness and a broad sweep, you can skew the tool to the direction of advance and tilt it to peel with almost any pitch angle.
Did I mention that you don't want the piece spinning at Mach 3? It's basic physics that increases the energy available with the square of velocity. Keep the energy of the piece low by going slow, and you'll have better control even if you do get too far into the rotation of the wood. You can't increase your strength beyond what it is by turning a dial, so find the speed of advance and rate of rotation that allows a continuous shaving, and stay there.